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  • Is Courting still a thing?

    I have observed in this generation that guys do not court the girls that they like anymore. Yes, they constantly talk to girls that they like and take them to dates. But that is not courting. More often than not, what guys do to girls is flirting. I do think that before being in an actual lovers relationship, the guy must court the girl first. What are your thoughts on this? Is courting still a thing? Or maybe it hasn't been for a while?

  • #2
    I don't think that guys still do some courting. All they do is say sweet words to girls and in an instant, they become boyfriend and girlfriend already. Back in our time, courting is a must for the guys. I just hope that it will be brought back in this new generation.


    • Divina009
      Divina009 commented
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      I think that there are some guys out there that are willing to court and woo a lady and I applaud them for that sweet gesture. These days, we're more into the hookup culture so it's rare to find old-school romantics if you ever met a guy like that, then consider yourself lucky.

    • AnneCubix
      AnneCubix commented
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      Yes, each generation has its own thing. Now, courting is no longer needed. When you like each other then after few flirting then your would be on a relationship already.

  • #3
    I do believe that courting hasn't been a thing for quite a while now. Nowadays, young couples usually just became couples through texting and social media. And I don't think that that is a good foundation of a relationship.


    • MasQue
      MasQue commented
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      You're right, I feel bad for them, why? They never get the chance to experience those kinds of things. A man will do whatever it takes to pursue that girl of his dreams and there she'll see how he'll put much effort to win her heart. Sadly, this generation has become my least favorite.

    • smartass
      smartass commented
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      I think that is already the in thing these days. It may not look like a good foundation of a relationship but that is how things work now. We must embrace the new things that we have now.

  • #4
    I don't think so. Guys want a relationship but don't want to work hard to get it. They always want the easy way out that's why they often avoid courting. Before, in order to get a girl, the guy should work hard in persuading her to agree to be in a relationship with him. But now, guys don't even need to break a sweat because they can easily get the girls that they like through their sweet and flirtatious moves.


    • youngsterme
      youngsterme commented
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      This is absolutely true! And it's sad to think that guys are mostly like this, I don't know if their father even told them stories about how they wooed their mother. You know, in order for them to do the same, but it's their choice, and they're just lazy and don't seem to be affectionate. I wish they could bring back those practices.

    • Cupcakeri
      Cupcakeri commented
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      I guess that the world had already changed. Gone are the days that men need to court the women. Now, simple dates would do. If they like each other then that is it - they would be together in a new relationship.

    • pleaserloser
      pleaserloser commented
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      But those are the things that we have now. The world has been changing over time. And these are the new ways of doing things when it comes to relationship.

  • #5
    I think young people nowadays take being in a relationship and being in love so lightly. They have this urge to delve into relationships immediately without being familiar with the person yet. And that stage is associated with courting. But now that courting hasn't been a thing already, I think young couples do not really know their partners in a deeper level.


    • BigDaddy69
      BigDaddy69 commented
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      I couldn't agree more. Seems like they think that love and being in a relationship is a game which makes me sad sometimes. Anyway, I believe that before delving in a serious relationship, courting should be done.

    • Aglowwo
      Aglowwo commented
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      But you would be together in a daily basis, those would be your opportunity to know the person better. I believe that when you clicked at the first meeting then then there is a high probability that it would continue in that way.

    • MoiraMcTagarrt
      MoiraMcTagarrt commented
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      But young people tend to be together longer so that would be the time that could be used to know each other on the deeper level.

  • #6
    Courting is just a waste of time. You can get to know the person while you are already in a relationship so why is there still a need for courting?


    • Lingtote
      Lingtote commented
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      Yeah, we are living in the modern world already. No need for that courting thing. If you both like each other then you could already be together as lovers.

    • Tastyblic
      Tastyblic commented
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      You are saying that it would just be a waste of time but have you tried courting a woman in the past?

    • uninvoked
      uninvoked commented
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      Waste of time? No, I do not think so. I think that we could do some courting although not the full-time courting. I believe that it would still look nice to have it.

  • #7
    I don't observe people doing some courting. Seems like that tradition already died years ago. Most guys nowadays are all about hookups and not the actual relationship and I guess that's the reason why courting is not already practiced. Well, I just wish that I'll experience to be courted someday.


    • squirrellove
      squirrellove commented
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      I guess you just missed how guys usually treat you like a princess, wooing you in front of your parents in your house. I remember how I usually receive presents like roses, handwritten letters, and stuffed bears from suitors but that was during my high school and college days. Now that I am working, I'm more focused on work because those will soon fade just like those past lovers that I'd had.

    • AliveLivery
      AliveLivery commented
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      For easy hookups, then courting is definitely not needed. And yes, most people are looking for mere hookups as that would be the easiest way to get laid down.

  • #8
    It is still a thing for some people but it's scarce and if it has been in their tradition then better! We usually put a lot of effort into courting "the one" because we'll have to make sure that she will choose us to be her boyfriend and the rest comes easy.


    • CupcakeComments
      CupcakeComments commented
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      I hope that someone out there can still be practicing this kind of thing. Courting is a big deal for me, back in the days my suitors will put a lot of effort to win my hand of becoming their girlfriend, oh how things change so quickly!

    • Carlosa34
      Carlosa34 commented
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      badbadboys The fact that courting is not a tradition no longer being practiced these days, I'm surprised that those youngsters know much more about hookup culture more than those old-fashioned romance.

  • #9
    I think that courting is a past thing. The world is now modern and with it, the courting has already been replaced with something else - modern dating. Even dating is now modern - most people expect to have sex after some dates so long as you like each other.


    • Stoneyption
      Stoneyption commented
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      That is the sad truth and it breaks me whenever guys expect me to hook up with them on our first date which is not what I look for. I've been seeking for a serious relationship but too bad these men just wanted fun for a short period of time.

    • Airexadre
      Airexadre commented
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      We can teach our kids in the future that courting is a much better way to get someone to fall in love with you. So what if you're old-fashioned? You know, it's best to make courting become a thing again, probably one of the best comebacks to all dating history for the modern generation.

  • #10
    Maybe, it would be nice to be courted by men. Although that would be a far fetched idea. It is not common to be courted now. Times had already changed that people would just some dates then they would be together as couples.


    • VanVan01
      VanVan01 commented
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      It is nice to be courted by a real man, and I know there's only a few of them out them. I hope that someday there would be more of them, I must teach my kids the proper way of courting and we will revive this kind of practice. I hope future parents like me will join in too.

    • HoneyHoney72
      HoneyHoney72 commented
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      I could imagine that it would be nice to be courted. Although that would be just an imagination. I do not think that I would experience it anymore.

  • #11
    No, courting hasn't been practiced for quite some time. For teens at present, it's not necessary because they can always get to know their partners through social media (which I don't agree to). Most people like to talk and mingle in social media but I am against this practice because not everything in social media is true. That practice will only increase the number of misleading information about people.


    • halfSlut23
      halfSlut23 commented
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      I agree. I really don't understand why young people did not absorb the courting culture. I bet that they would have a longer relationship if they have gone through courting before being in a relationship.

    • rockmybedpls
      rockmybedpls commented
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      At least, there is the social media now. It is easier to just browse his accounts and you would learn something from it. I am still thankful that those social media accounts are existing now.

  • #12
    I admit that I am not the type of person who wants to do courting and stuff like that. I believe that's not necessary anymore for as long you and your partner both know that you are interested in each other and would want to continue for the long run.


    • hardandrough
      hardandrough commented
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      But your relationship wouldn't run a long course if there is no solid and trusted foundation. For the past years, courting is considered to be the base of a wonderful relationship.

    • HoneySpyder
      HoneySpyder commented
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      Just say that you are too lazy to make some effort to the girl that you like to be in a relationship with.

  • #13
    I think that a little courting would do. It would still be nice to be courted. The feeling would be fantastic when a man courts you. I still long to be courted. I think that I would feel like floating in the clouds.


    • merrygoround
      merrygoround commented
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      Hahaha. Even the genie on the bottle would not be able to grant your request. In this age and day, no courting shall be done anymore. All would be instant, as far as I know.

  • #14
    Courting is such an old school habit. It's more convenient to meet, flirt, hookup, then get into relationship if you've enjoyed the company. No need for courting.